I could use a lot of different sayings here: the heart wants what it wants, a dream is a wish your heart makes, let it go, you have to work hard for what you want.
We all want something. I want this salad to be a donut. You want that Lamborghini, but you can’t have it because you don’t have 4.5 million dollars. Your friend wants a dog, but can’t have pets in the apartment because her roommate is allergic. A guy wants to date his dream girl, but she friend zoned him. It sucks, but that’s life.
It’s hard to know you are perfect for someone and yet it wasn’t meant to be. My case is I’m in love with a man that I can never have. He is perfect and I know together, we would be perfect. I hold no resentment to my predicament. I will move on eventually. And I use eventually loosely, Sin City is full of users, losers, and abusers.
So, you’ve had your date. And????? Did it go well? If it did there should be no reason to stop talking. Maybe a second date is in the works. Like I said in “Blog 6”, the wait three days to text is a myth. The strength in a relationship is communication. It will suck at first because this is all brand new, but if it is meant to be, it will come together. Don’t give up.
And people, don’t ghost. I mentioned this in blog 6.
Ghosting is where you are talking to someone and then, POOF, they’re gone. If somewhere in the conversation you don’t see it going anywhere, have the balls to say so. Ghosting is immature and a d$@# move. And it can set in motion for a person to develop self-esteem issues. Guys and girls, alike, have done this at least once and it’s wrong. Almost hypocritical. Golden Rule, people, Golden Rule. If you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to someone else.
Don’t drag out a conversation and beat around the bush about saying yes to a second or third or fourth date. If you don’t like the person, stop toying with emotions. By the fourth date, feelings have been invested, maybe not a lot, but there are some. Just be a man or woman and keep it real. I have a lot more respect for someone if they just come out and say that they don’t see a future in this. Mad respect! I can say okay and move on.
Not every first date is going to lead to something. Don’t get discouraged. Don’t give up. As Elsa sings, “Let it go.” Your prince or princess is out there, they are looking for you, they might have lost their way, but they will find you.
Until you find them or they find you, if you lose your shoes at midnight, you’re drunk. Go home, shake it off. Be patient.